Archives for October 2017
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Wednesday, November 1
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Wednesday, November 15
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Wednesday, November 22
Monday, November 27
Thursday, November 30
Attention fantasy novel readers! We’ve got a book in just for you! We have just completed our review of Escape From Witchwood Hollow by Jordan Elizabeth which you can check out here and this is definitely a recommended read! It is going to be on sale for the first time this year on November 3rd! Congratulations, Jordan! We are excited for you!
This morning I received a stellar review of my romance novel Wildfire by Lady T (author Taneisha LaGrant) on TaneishaLaGrant.Com! I’ve always been super passionate about this particular novel because I invested so much time in its creation. It was my first really full-length novel and was basically me, as a teenager, getting to live out my dream of being an entertainer yet having to deal with very real relationship and family issues. As always it is weird for me to think of it as a romance because I’m a drama monster but I guess I have to concede and call it what it is, lol. Check out the review here and take this reviewer’s word for it as well! The reviews can’t be wrong!
A friend of mine requested that I blog about the following topic – What advice would you give future parents bringing children up in today’s society? She’s handed me a loaded gun.
Parenting. The one thing in our lives that we wish had a handbook. How to be the Perfect Parent A-Z. Creating Successful & Happy Offspring User Guide. All of the fluffy titles that you wish are on the shelves so that you can do everything right and create this perfect entity. They just do not exist and if they do they are a sham. There is no one-size fits all parenting program. People are too different. All of the things that work well for one may not work as well for another if at all.
The best advice I can give to future parents, especially in today’s society, is to love your children. Love them with every bit of you because this world is so quick to chew them up and spit them out. I hear so many stories of these babies feeling so alone in this world, so bullied, that they are taking their own lives. Eight year olds. Can you believe that? We have eight year old babies committing suicide. I don’t think I even knew what that was at that age!
We see mini-series like 13 Reasons Why based off of novels that are so many children’s actual realities. I don’t think that bullying is any different than it always has been with the exception of it being harder and harder to escape. My generation and above don’t really believe it or understand it and I believe that is primarily because we did not have the social media of today when we grew up. We aren’t dependent on it. Back then if you were bullied at school you were at least safe when you got to your front door. You had a break. A reprieve. These children do not seem to have that these days.
The downfalls or embarrassing moments that these kids nowadays face are captured on snapchat, youtube, Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook. Google me, bitch, and you’ll find whatever moment that they haven’t been able to live down on constant rotation. Your embarrassment that one day in that one class that one year is now playing all over the world with not only your class making fun of you but someone millions of miles away. It’s not just children bullying these babies but also adults. Think about how many memes you’ve seen today alone or how many videos you’ve scrolled by or watched where someone’s baby is getting jumped on. We don’t think about the fact that this will haunt them forever. We’re quick to say that this is temporary, it’s not the rest of your life, no one will remember this after high school – how can they believe that when that video of them getting jumped by ten other kids has 12 million views?
Talk to them. I don’t condone the whole go into their social media accounts and read their diary tactics. One, my kids are not teenagers yet, but you should create an environment where they should feel comfortable enough and safe enough to talk to you. My mother was and is my best friend. We’ve had uncomfortable discussions. I’ve had to tell her about people taking advantage of me or picking on me but she made that easy to do. Do not shut yourself off from them. If you’re a bully why would they take anything to you? If you act as if you are infallible they cannot relate to you nor trust that you will understand where they are coming from. Talk to them about the things going on in the world, the things that they see on the news, and make them a part of the conversation. They need to understand the world that they live in and how to rise above the controversies.
I don’t think there is anything more valuable than spending genuine quality time with your kids. Take them to do things and if money is tight going to a park is free. Go outside in the backyard with them. Just be present. You don’t want all of their memories of you to be that you were at work all day and they had to fend for themselves. TV is not a babysitter. You have to teach them things! Read! It is a common misconception that the school is going to teach your child all that he or she needs to know. They are only going to take them so far. Your child is dependent on you for the rest.
A subject that a few friends and I seem to always gravitate toward is this whole everyone is a winner concept. Um, what the what? No! There is a winner. We need to stop feeding this crap to our children that mediocrity is acceptable. We don’t push them to put their best foot forward and be the best that they can be because everyone “wins”. In a society like that no one wins. Honestly. They aren’t challenged the way that we were. There is no competition. Back in my day there was the winner and the first loser – HARSH – but honest. You didn’t win. Almost doesn’t count. Push harder. You should want to be number one because WE are NOT number one.
This is just a snippet of my end of the conversation.
What is yours?
It’s been a long time since I’ve felt powerless. I mean genuine back seat of my own vehicle kind of powerless. So much seems to be just over the horizon for me but it also feels like it is too far away. Some items are a little far gone to be okay.
I try to stay as positive as possible but the reality of it is that I have dark days too. I get stressed out and depressed just like the next person and to ignore that is a disservice to anyone that looks to me. If I am going to use my platform to speak and elevate others I also must use it to express that every day is not easy. Some days are really fucking hard.
Today is one of those days.
Nothing out of the ordinary occurred. There was no catastrophic event that lead to this downward spiral of my mood. It was just too many little things all at once over the course of however long that has just pushed me to this incredibly irritated and depressing version of myself.
I cannot stand when people do not keep their word or hold up their end of the bargain. It is completely overwhelming to have to carry my own weight and that of others and to be able to maintain that with a coke and a smile. It is financial, it is emotional, it is the same repeated pattern over and over again. It is relationships – not just intimate – that can be too much to handle when you are made to feel like you have to handle everything.
Do NOT tell me that you are going to handle something to lessen my load and then you don’t. I am counting on you and when you just forget to tackle that task then you are screwing me. I hate to use that phrase who saves the hero because I most certainly do not feel like anyone’s damn hero but I do feel completely unappreciated and walked over and taken for granted.
Those who know me personally know that there are so many different factors and so many different people who both fill me and drain me of my soul. I always give people the benefit of the doubt and I know that I have myself to blame for my situations. I am guilty too. I just pray to God that my kindness, my nurturing, would not be so abused.
I am tired and I am overwhelmed. I know that tomorrow will be better. I know that God has got me because he always sees me through.
I just need to rest and recuperate.
Starting on November 1st through November 30th Wounded will be on a virtual book blog tour hosted by Pump Up Your Book! During this tour you will be able to view guest blogs, interviews, Q&A’s and read reviews of the novel on 12+ book blog sites. This is my fist book blog tour so I am excited to have this experience and see how it goes. I’m very excited for the re-release of this urban romance novel and to be able to share it with a wider audience. If you haven’t gotten your copy yet make sure that you order one from either Amazon, Barnes & Noble or here on my website! The ebook is EXCLUSIVELY on Amazon Kindle at this time, however, the paperback is available EVERYWHERE right now!
If you get the book don’t forget to snap a selfie and post it on your social media accounts with #wounded #antibasic! Tag @raeovsun to be entered into our contest and have your selfie added to the contest page!
More news to come!
You would think after all these years I’ve been in this position that I would have learned some loop hole to Terminate an employee that would be suitable to meet the endless legal needs, per HR..nope
In today’s society everyone needs a reason besides the obvious. YOU!
I hear so many times “but I need this job” but it usually after dozens of attendance points have been collected for “enter in reason” or poor performance due to someone else’s guidance or even the infamous “so and so doesn’t like me that is why I cannot succeed”
Looking in the mirror is nonexistent. Taking responsibility..never Or take a hold of the wheel!!!!!! Nah, my hands hurt.
Success is easy. Sharing personal success not so. Everyone wants a bite of the pie unless it’s made of shit..
Guess what…eat shit once in a while.
Even shit comes in shades of “Green”…